"He had a good time and I did not"

I have been dating, actually dating is a strong word, casually hanging out with various men. I have given them various names based on their professions... the artist, the law student, the doctor. I don't know if I am actually ready but I am not a nun and can only hold out without being touched for so long. I had the artist over several weeks ago and it got a little out of control... ending with him "having a good time" and me not "having a good time". First when did it become OK that men can "have a good time" and then roll over? I have never encountered this before. Maybe I was spoiled with D but that hasn't happened to me in years. It was complete bullshit. The second bullshit move is I didn't hear from him again for several weeks. So as a recap HE CAME and I DID NOT (we didn't have sex - but that is not the point) and the HE DIDN'T CALL ME. Yes the overwhelming panic and missing D could have taken over but I decided to move forward. To learn from this. So eventually he did call. He came over the other night to watch a movie. Moving closer to me on the couch, rubbing my legs and telling me how lovely I look. At the end of the movie when he went to make his move I called his bullshit. I decided that I would not be putting up with men like this anymore! I made a decision a woman who loved herself would make. I told him straight up I was not looking for a commitment from him, but I was looking for respect. I would not be hooking up with him until he showed me some. It was so empowering. I have to say I could almost here my friend S cheering in the background. He made all the typical commitments, "I will call you tomorrow", etc etc. Instead of backing down I held my ground and told him if he called me tomorrow we could work on hanging out again and maybe then we would hook up. Well guess what he didn't call me the next day. I finally made a smart decision where I could see the consequences of my actions so clearly. It felt wonderful. Even though he has called me since then I have made a conscientious decision and will stick to it. No disrespectful men. I want something more. I deserve something more. I have to make these decisions to get the things that I want and so keeping my mantra in my mind I will face each day with this outlook and know that I am working to the best of my ability to make the life I want a possibility.